Thursday, August 30, 2012

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

"I can't give them everything they need on Sunday"

So said a pastor friend of mine this morning as he prayed for his congregation.

Many church-goers act like going to church once a week (or less) is enough spiritual nutrition to carry them through life.  They don't realize they're starving.

The song writer who wrote, "I need Thee every hour," expressed a universal need. 

We were made to walk with God, even as Adam did in the cool of the garden.  We were meant to companion with God, not meet with him once a week to catch up.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Be a better spouse

For a Glory and a Covering: A Practical Theology of MarriageFor a Glory and a Covering: A Practical Theology of Marriage by Douglas Wilson
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Douglas Wilson seems to come at every topic from a different angle that makes reading him intriguing, entertaining, and helpful.

This book has fresh applications of traditional marriage Scriptures, and it deals with other texts that I've never heard discussed before in relation to marriage (much less applied), texts like Ex 21:10-11; Titus 2:3-5; Mal 2:15; Prov 9:1-6. I've heard 1 Cor 11:2-16 debated a few times, but used to lay out practical guidelines for marriage? Wilson does it.

The chapters are short, and the topics are both the usual and the not-so-usual. I appreciated his discussions of jealousy as a virtue, the nature of masculinity and femininity (how they're not precisely equivalent to male and female), the duties of husbands and wives, lies about equality, and divorce.

As an example of his unique approach, in his chapter on respective marital duties, he details the duties of husbands as protection (physical and spiritual) and (based on Ex 21:10-11) provision (complete cupboards, complete closets, and complete union). The duties of wives (based on Titus 2:3-5) include a pleasant home, a well-run home, and the home as a course of study.

In sum, Wilson's book is deeper theologically and wider applicationally than most marriage books.  I guarantee you won't agree with everything, but your thinking on marriage will be sharpened by reading this book. And maybe your marriage will be enhanced, too.

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Friday, August 17, 2012

The virtue of jealousy

Douglas Wilson, pastor in Moscow, Idaho, explains good jealousy in his marriage book, For a Glory and a Covering:

"Godly jealousy is not really about making particular accusations—jealousy builds a fence but does not make assertions about the individuals who don’t know why you put the fence there.  You can lock your doors at night without accusing every person who walks by of attempted thievery, and you can pull back when someone crosses your “friendly line” without accusing that person of “attempted adultery.”  Godly jealousy sets particular standards—for friendships, for get-togethers, for business lunches, for entertainment standards, for dress, and so on.  Many fathers, for example, are not nearly jealous enough when it comes to how their daughters dress.  And they might be surprised at how much it costs to have a daughter look that cheap…. 

"A man or woman should be jealous over things like sexual infidelity, emotional flirtation, significant amounts of time spent elsewhere when it should be spent at home, money squandered when it should be invested in the home, and so forth."